Our language is so important to how we feel about ourselves. For me, if I say, “I’ll try or maybe I can,” my power and self confidence go out the window. But if I say,” count on me or watch my dust,” I step up to the plate and make it happen. We invent our life by how we speak. We create who we are by the words we use.
Often the words are to protect us or give us an out. Let me give an example of the words yes, no and maybe. I want you to visualize two cliffs with a deep chasm between them. The left side is YES - powerful, confident and from the heart. The Right side is NO -powerful, confident and from the heart. Between the two cliffs is a tiny, swaying bridge. This is MAYBE. There is no power here. The bridge swings with the wind. If you stay there, you might lose your footing or just hang on with hope it will be okay.
YES calls you up to do what you said yes to. NO is a choice that it’s not for me at this time. In both situations YOU make a choice and get into action. MAYBE gives you a foot out, so you don’t have to commit. It allows you to not be responsible for the outcome. It allows you to be nice vs tell the truth and it keeps you mooshy and small. The great thing is that you can always shift from a yes to a no and visa versa. Hanging out in maybe is stagnant and scary.
Kristy is a Personal Evolution Coach with nearly three decades of helping others achieve their highest goals. Being able to bring clarity to any situation will ultimately resolve that situation and leave each party with a feeling of worthiness, fulfillment and gratitude.