Kristy Deegan Blog

My Daughter's Birthday

This week marks my daughter’s birthday. She has been my love and passion for everything I did and I continue to think of her in her adult life and am here when she needs me. As I reflect on her birth, growing up and her adult life I am reminded of how closely this process relates to business.   In starting my business everything I did, thought and prayed for was for the success of my business.  I was so focused on the business and it’s growth. Just as I was with my daughter. Everything was for her benefit in growing up.   As the business started to flourish, I was able to pull back a little and not be so hands on. I needed to keep my hands in most things, but I could delegate or re-purpose content and not be so driven.  I had set up all the…
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2 Secrets to Achieving Harmony in Your Life

All 5 of the secrets to achieving harmony in my life are important, however, the two that have altered my life the most are Self Care and Connection to a higher power.   My whole perspective on self care altered when I understood that the most important thing I could do in the domain of self care was discipline. Yep, it surprised me.  I thought self care meant a bubble bath, a walk in nature, clean teeth and plenty of rest. Nope. All of these things come under discipline.  It takes discipline to plan a bubble bath, take a walk, brush my teeth and go to bed at a decent time. It would be really easy for me to talk myself out of any of the above tasks.  However, with discipline I can accomplish them all and feel good about it. Discipline is a series of choices to get me…
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LISTENING

You are at a networking event.  In hearing the brief introductions, you notice a woman that you might help in her business.  You strike up a conversation by asking a question or two about her business and her challenges.  You notice where you might help and you make an offer. ZIP your lip. Let her be the first to speak.  She will say something: yes, no, I’ll think about it, etc.  Whatever she says you must go into more questions and let her talk about it.Your biggest asset is the listening.  If she feels heard, feels “gotten” and likes what she sees, she will talk herself into it.   An employee asks if he can talk to you.  He is unhappy in his job. Ask questions about his situation, what is the problem, what has he done about it and what does he need? Then ZIP your lip.  He needs…
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People Do Not Want or Need Your Product

Picture yourself walking into a large group of business owners to network.  Not all groups are like this, but I envision driving down a busy street and seeing the eleventy-billion ads along each side. “Buy me”, “Have I got a deal for you”, “This is the best___ on the market”  and you are one of them.   Here is a hot tip: People do not want or need your product.   This week we celebrate Martin Luther King, Jr Day. “ I have a dream…” Nothing stopped him from pursuing his dream.  It even lived on after he was shot. This is what you look for in a network meeting or sales conversation. What is their dream?   Everyone has wishes and dreams for themselves.  Your job is to give them an experience of you that triggers their experience of having that dream realized. Then they want what you have.…
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Let's Start the Year Off Right!

We as human beings are naturally hard on ourselves when we feel that we don’t get something right or keep our promises.  How are you going to be with yourself about keeping your promises for the new year? Here is a hot tip! When you beat yourself up for not doing something, you miss out on the learning. You don’t discover what stopped you and thus continue to make the same mistakes.  What if you embraced your humanity and allow yourself to do the best you can and if something goes wrong, adjust?   When we put a man on the moon there were multiple adjustments. The course was charted and had to be adjusted.  If the rocket kept going on the original straight line, it would go off into space somewhere.  The scientists knew that to reach the moon the rocket had to go in an arc. The rocket…
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5 Secrets to Easy Delegation

One of the most difficult areas for an entrepreneur is delegation. It seems so easy to the outsider: Just do it! However, to a true entrepreneur, there is only one way to do things: their way.  A major flaw in the human perception is that we think others think like we do and they don’t.  so, how can I delegate and get the job done as I want it to be done, you say.   1. Be very clear about what you want done. Encourage the employer or helper to ask questions until you are both clear. For example: I want you to write an email detailing what our clients will do for the next week. I want it to have a lot of white space and use bullets. You must mention the dates and times and the expectation of duration of each event for the week. Finally I want…
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We All Can Be Creative

One year ago I started oil painting. Now, up until then I did not consider myself artistic in any way. But, I have been walking my talk.  I’ve been writing blogs about being present, being kind to your little person inside of you, and being grateful for everything I have and will have in my life. Last year I began feeling like I wanted to be creative.  My friend suggested painting.  I signed up for a class and voila! I could actually paint. At first I thought the instructor should get the credit, but she never touched the canvas.  She showed me how to do the strokes with liquid on the newspaper. I actually created a beautiful picture.   Now, I’m not asking you to go out and take painting lessons. I’m asking you to look at your life.  Notice where you are totally present and where you are not.…
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5 Steps to Achieve Goals in 2016

It’s that time of year!  Time to plan for next year and creating goals to move forward.  In thinking about goals for the year have no more than 3-5 at any given time.   The first step is to have a big overall Context that all your specific goals feed into. For example your Context may be to have peace of mind and harmony in all my areas of life. As you look at areas or categories in your life, select goals that will support this context.   Next, draw a large daisy with the word “YOU” in the center.  Each petal is a category of your life: self-care, finance, business, family, fun, spirituality, etc.  look at all your categories and pick the top three that you want to work on.  Let’s say self-care, business and spirituality.  Evaluate how you want to enhance or improve each area. Select a goal…
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Say Yes To You

It’s the holiday season and we celebrate Thanksgiving this week. In this hectic time we often forget or postpone taking care of ourselves.  It’s often difficult to say no.  No to extra food. No to working very hard in your business so you can have time off. No to anything where you think you are needed like volunteering, hosting etc.   I’d like to reframe "saying no."  A no to someone might mean a yes to you and your self care. Saying no the the binge eating over the holidays is not a deprivation.  It’s saying yes to your health and well being. Saying no the the extra work might mean some things don’t get done now. It’s saying yes to you and meeting your own needs. Saying no to hosting the holiday meal this year might make some waves and you are saying yes to you.   You don’t…
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I Choose Being

The Holidays are often a very frantic time.  There is so much to do,  presents to buy, decorations to hang, etc etc etc.  We get so much into the doing of the holidays that we often miss out on the being of the holidays.  The being of the holidays is about love, compassion, giving, sharing, forgiving. When we are in the doing we must consciously experience the being. One can be in the present moment even while doing, but it takes practice.  When I am frantic, trying to get things done, remember all the things to do, I sometimes find myself making mistakes, forgetting things, missing steps or having small accidents.  This is because  am not in the moment.     Let’s take the holiday meal, for example. The moment we decide to host the meal, our minds race into the future. Planning the meal is the closest we get…
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